Sizzlin’ Summer: How to Get Your Confidence Back
In the world we live in, we hear a lot about self-confidence. And the thing is, we cannot rely on our own self-confidence to get us through our daily lives. We’re human. We’re inconsistent. We all fail from time to time (believe it or not, every one of us does!). That’s why it is so important to put our confidence in God, not in ourselves.
We don’t need stronger self-confidence; we need to cultivate God-confidence. He is strong when we aren’t; in Him we can safely place our confidence. 1 Corinthians 10:12 (MSG) says: “Forget about self-confidence; it’s useless. Cultivate God-confidence.” It is so important to put our confidence in the One who is always there for us. Confidence in ourselves cannot help us accomplish our destiny – but confidence in God can.
It can be easy to slide into focusing on our accomplishments, our own power, and our own abilities. However, that is not a recipe for long-term victory. Philippians 3:7 (TPT) says: “Yet all of the accomplishments that I once took credit for, I’ve now forsaken them and I regard it all as nothing compared to the delight of experiencing Jesus Christ as my Lord!”
Here are three important reasons we cannot rely on our own self-confidence:
- My heart is deceitful. Jeremiah 17:9 (NIV) explains: “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” Our hearts can be convinced of almost anything. We’ve all done it: we know we shouldn’t do something, but we convince ourselves that “it’s not really a bad thing, it’s totally fine, we aren’t really going against what God has for us…” Our hearts can be convinced that wrong is right, and we cannot rely on our hearts; our hearts can deceive us.
- My strength is limited. Our strength is limited, but God’s is not. We cannot rely on our own abilities; when we put all our hope in our own strength, we are going to be disappointed. You are a wonderful person, loved and blessed, but you are only human – you cannot rely on your own strength.
- My behavior is inconsistent. We want to do right. We want to do God’s will in our lives, but we do things that aren’t in our best interest all the time. Romans 7:15 (NIV) says: “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.” At one time or another, we all slide back to things we know are not what God wants for us. The glorious news is, God is consistent even when we are not.
Three truths to get our confidence back and help us cultivate God confidence:
- My God is always for me. Romans 8:31 (NIV) declares: “If God is for us, who can be against us?” Our God is for us always. Doesn’t that make you feel ten feet tall? Regardless of whether or not you are having a great day, God is for you. Think about the kids in your life; you are always for them, even when they aren’t on their best behavior. Your love for them doesn’t hinge on what they do; you love them because they are your children or your siblings or your nieces and nephews. You love them because of who they are to you. Think about that; you love them unconditionally. God loves you unconditionally – and He is for you always.
- My God always helps me. Hebrews 13:5-6 (NIV) states: “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” 6 So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid.” God will never leave you. Ever. And He wants to help you with all that you do. God wants you to thrive – think about that. The God of the universe wants to help you in your daily life. You never have to face the world alone when you have Jesus by your side.
- My God is still working in me. Philippians 1:6 (NIV) says: “… being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” We’re all a work in progress! Don’t beat yourself up just because you’re not where you want to be right now. Think about where you used to be and compare that with where you are today. Jesus has started a good work in you and He will complete it. Isn’t that wonderful? He’s not going to leave you where you are.
While we are only human, God is always constant – and he is always for us. You are valued and loved by our Father; embrace the confidence in God that can combat any self-deprecating feelings that might come against you.